Every relationship goes through its ups an downs. They experience twists and turns, obstacles and periods where everything feels off kilter, but one of the biggest challenges to be mindful of are lopsided connections. These types of connections lack equal exchange of energy and can be quite draining on both your heart and soul.
1.) You Are The Only One Growing the Connection
Whether it’s a relationship or just a connection you are working to grow, both parties should be communicating with each other regularly. If you find you are the only one initiating conversation or trying to set up plans, it may be time to have a conversation with your significant other. Find out what’s going on. Communicate openly and authentically. Share exactly what you are feeling in your heart. Most of the time there is good reason for this and it may not be what your think. There could be external factors inhibiting their ability to communicate regularly or see you. They could also be experiencing stress in their life they haven’t yet told you about. While there could be a fear the other person has lost interest, the more you communicate what you are feeling, the better your chances of being able to repair the connection and get back exactly what you need and deserve.
2.) You Spend More Time Solving The Other Party’s Issues
While it’s healthy for couples or even friends to lean on each other from time to time, if you spend all of your time mothering or helping the other person through difficult times, it could be a good time to ask yourself if you are getting what you need out of this connection. This is especially true if you feel you have to solve all your issues on your own or feel as though you aren’t ever heard. Constant rescue in a connection not only takes away from the beauty found in real relationships, it can also create a lot of negative emotion on your side.
If you feel this way, try to communicate with your partner. Let them know how you are feeling. Be honest about your needs and say what’s on your mind. While it’s not always the easiest conversation to have, sometimes this type of communication is exactly what a connection needs to start thriving again.
All in all, it’s important you maintain your power and regularly communicate what’s on your mind and in your heart. When you do, not only do you free yourself of worry and difficult anxiety, you also start a process that can help your connection thrive again.