Creating Your Space

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"Nowhere can man find a quieter or more untroubled retreat than in his own soul." ~Marcus Aurelius

I’m a big believer in the idea of meditation. When I first tried ages ago I followed a lot of the standard methods. I Buddha sat, turned on music I didn't like, and them OM'd while breathing and nothing happened. It was frustrating. I was then told by a self-proclaimed guru that I simply lacked the proper ability and once I evolved more, I may be able to meet his level of mastery. Give me a break. To be honest, I'm glad it didn't work. It allowed me to step away from that starstruck gooey-eyed New Age love and light cultish way of thinking.  I have little respect for ego driven and hierarchy based systems that believe in ritualistic behavior in order to complete a task. Don’t get me wrong, I'm not trying to be overly judgmental, but those rituals are put in place simply to improve overall belief level rather than keeping it simple and just believing and trusting. It’s no different than a Tarot reader who believes they have to shuffle their cards eight times in order to get an accurate reading. But, I digress. That is a different topic for a different day. Regardless of one's spirituality, I do believe meditation in general to be a critical component to both mental and physical wellness.

Meditation is really anything that gets you out your head and back into the present moment. This is where inspiration is born. This is where new ideas come to the forefront and where your scattered thoughts of yesterday or the anxieties associated with what tomorrow may bring are finally set to the side. It’s all about being right here, now. It’s about surrendering into everything that is set before you.

Quick sessions are good for decompressing, but sometimes it’s necessary to go into a deeper and more meaningful state. Of course, you can do this in any manner you choose, but I want to share a method I have seen success with for quite some time now and something I teach to students who partake in my Intuitive Development courses. Plus, it can be pretty fun.

Years ago, when I left the corporate world a friend of mine talked to me about sacred spaces. This is place you create in your mind that has the capacity to immediately put you into a more meditative and relaxed state. The idea of this space, however, is something I have been able to develop and grow over time and is now my go to spot for personal guidance, intuitive insight, inspiration, exploration and even intense healing work. In time, you'll also likely be able to communicate with others from here.

On an aside, I remember telling my son about it and he had already been doing it for some time. It blows my mind how naturally in-tune the younger generation actually is. They hold much more raw ability than most. Most of the older generation, including people that work with these types of practices, can’t handle hearing this and will dismiss it due to continued ego issues, but at the end of the day, it’s the truth. I can only hope these younger groups continue to explore their own abilities, find ways to tap into more and then share them with all.

How Do I Get There?

The below may sound a bit hypocritical since I’m going to describe a process, but this process is only the beginning. It’s the initial way to enter into you own zone. Once you are there and attuned to the new environment, the rest will be completely in your hands.


Find a spot you are comfortable in. You can sit or lay down. It doesn’t really matter; what matters is that you are comfortable and away from unnecessary distractions. Take a few deep breaths to shake off any residual stress or anxiety.


Close your eyes and let something start coming to you. Don’t overthink it; simply let it unfold. For me, I almost always enter into an ocean like area. The graceful moon shines her light across the water below and the warm gentle ocean breeze rejuvenates me every time it brushes against my skin. The waves in the distance are melodic, the sands are warm to the touch and the crackling fire at my side provides the perfect level of comfort and illumination.  Sometimes it’s cloudy and sometimes it’s even storming. I love the stormy nights the most. The thunder invigorates and energizes my soul and the tantalizing bolts of lightning electrify me when they spread their sharp fingers across the entire night sky. It's truly a remarkable place and it's mine.


To make the most of this space and in order to make it real it is necessary to focus on every one of your senses while there. This may seem difficult at first, but the more you learn to perceive your surroundings from an instinctual sense, the more real this becomes. Seeing it come together borders on imagination, but learning to truly experience your space will, in essence, create a new reality that is yours and yours alone.

What do you see?

What is the temperature? Warm? Cold? Humid? Dry?

Is it nighttime or daytime?

What do you smell?

Is there a breeze? If so, how does it feel on your skin?

What do you hear? Are there animals or birds around?

If there are objects nearby, what do they feel like? 

I once had a client of mine climb a tree the first time we explored her space. She was so in-tune with the surroundings, she actually felt herself slip and when she came out of it, her knee was red and sore. The power of the mind is truly an unexplored reality of its own. The more aware you become, the more you open up to and tap into things you are able to do. Explore it, practice it, and always focus on your senses.

Explore, Observe, and Journal

This is usually best to do in subsequent sessions as the first few are usually more focused on building and sensing. Once you become more attuned to the environment and feel as though you are in a true reality,  start exploring. New parts of your world will unfold before you and you are bound to have new experiences as well. Just always remember to go in with an open mind devoid of any expectation. Expectations quickly lead to disappointments. There will be times where the only reason for being there is to fully let go and decompress.

It’s always a good idea to journal your experiences too. Just like dreams, it’s easy to forget what all happened when you come out of it. Journal what you remember and what felt important to you. I think you’ll be surprised at what resonates over time.

Final Thoughts

If you run into problems and have a hard time maintaining your focus, don’t try to force it. Step away for a while and then come back when you feel ready. Trying to force it will just close you down.  I have days where I can’t get into it either. I just wait for a different time or jump in when I feel compelled to do so. For some, it will take time to learn to fully let go of conscious thoughts and allow your subconscious mind to take the stage. For others, they may be able to do it immediately. It's different for everyone.

Try it out, practice, get lost in your new reality, focus on your senses, gain insight, get the guidance you need and have fun! Let me know how it works out for you.

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